Posted in Blogging, Cat Mom, Random, Writing Challenges

Happy Tribus! All about the 3 you love…

Happy Tribus day everyone!

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Tribus day is brand new holiday, just created a few days ago by Rara and Eli Pacheco. It’s a day to celebrate three things you love. If you’re still confused, check out this post for more information.

So my three things for this very first Tribus day are:

Cats

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Coffee

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And all of the friends that I have gained through blogging.

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If you would like to participate, just write a post of your 3 loves, link it to Rara’s post explaining Tribus Day (Here) and tag it #HappyTribus.

Posted in Blogging, Family, Marriage, Relationships

No longer anonymous…

When I started this blog a few years ago I didn’t start out as anonymous. I let people on Facebook know that I had a blog and had my posts automatically shared on Facebook when I posted them. But, to my knowledge, not many people I actually knew were reading my blog and I wanted to start writing about things that were going to be easier to write about if no one knew who I was, so I decided to unlink my blog from Facebook. I went completely anonymous. No photos of myself, no names, only vague references to where I lived.

And then as I made friends via my blog I slowly started to give out bits and pieces of information about who I was and where I lived. I let people know that I lived in Northern Utah, in the Salt Lake Valley. That before that I lived in a little town on the Connecticut shoreline where I grew up. I slowly started to post pictures of myself, first without showing my face and then no longer hiding my face. I even changed my user pic to an actual picture of me.

The one thing that I have not done is let people know my real name. But as I have made friends on here and have started to connect with them via my personal Facebook page I have realized that eventually some of my other friends and family are going to figure out that I have a blog. And while that used to worry me because I fear judgement from them for the opinions and life choices that I discuss on this blog, I find that I no longer care as much if they might disapprove. I will be 33 years old on the very last day of November. I have been married to my husband, Curtis, (also known as unremarkable man) for 13 years and living on the other side of the country from most of my friends and family for over 11 years. In other words, I’m grown ass woman, and while I will always appreciate input and support from my friends and family, their opinion on how I choose to live my life doesn’t really matter.

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I don’t need anyone’s approval or permission to live my truth. And if anyone decides to voice their displeasure with my life choices, just know that one of my life choices is that I don’t need to have negativity in my life. You are allowed to have your opinions, but there is no reason why I need to hear about those opinions unless I have specifically asked for them.

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My life choices are not up for debate.

I have recently come back to blogging after taking a break from it for almost a year. I spruced up my blog layout. And I have decided that I’m tired of hiding. This is my space to write about what I want, and if people don’t like it, they don’t have to read it.

My name is Charlene Perry.

Posted in Family, Hairstyles, Relationships, Shaved Head

I shaved my head and people freaked out…

I made the decision to shave my head a couple of days ago and posted a picture of the result on Facebook.

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I knew that people were going to be surprised by just how short I went, just the year before I had hair down past my hips.

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But I had been slowly cutting it shorter and shorter over the past year, and had recently cut it to about a 1/2 inch long so I didn’t think that it was really all that drastic or sudden of a change.

I got a lot of positive feedback, along with some somewhat neutral, possibly negative feedback. A guy friend of mine commented that he’s “had that same haircut!” He happens to have long hair now, so my response was “And I’ve had your current hairstyle before!”

And then I got a message asking me if I was “doing alright” “because few women shave their heads.”

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Which honestly pissed me off.

A woman deciding to shave her head is not a sign of mental illness.

Then my grandmother straight out asked me in a comment on my picture if I was fighting cancer.

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To which I asked her if she seriously thought that I wouldn’t let everyone know that I was if that was what was going on.

Not every woman who shaves her head is sick. Some women shave their heads because they like the way they look with short hair.

I was then meant to feel guilty about my decision because “some women would do almost anything to have such beautiful hair.”

It’s not like I permanently cut off my hair. If I stop cutting it, it’ll grow back.

Also, I am in no way obligated to wear my hair long simply because other people find it pretty.

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Think of it this way: My husband cuts his hair just as short as mine all the time and nobody cares. Because he’s a guy.

But when a woman, such as myself, decides to shave her head it’s a big deal and some people decide that she must be ill in some way (either physically or mentally) because “why would a woman shave her head?”

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“Because she felt like it” is a perfectly acceptable answer to that question by the way.

There is absolutely no reason why a woman can’t style her hair any damn way she wants, including deciding to shave it all off. Women don’t need long hair to still be feminine.

And the only reason why it should be a big deal is because of how awesome she looks with her new hairstyle.

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And if “bald is beautiful” is only true to you if that person has cut their hair off for health reasons, if you are offended by the thought of women shaving their heads simply because they want to, I suggest that you may never have really meant it in the first place. Other women who are healthy deciding to shave their heads in no way takes away from the courageousness of women who had less choice in the matter.

Women are beautiful. Period. Hair length has nothing to with it.

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Posted in Hairstyles, Random, Shaved Head

The extremes of my hair, continued…

So, when I cut my hair to a 1/2 inch long I told people that was as short as I was gonna go.

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I had already had a friend joke with me/make a concerned comment when I my hair was an inch long that if I went much shorter that my husband and I would have the same haircut.

Well, now we do.

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Or at least we will once my husband trims his hair again. Right now my husband is actually the one with longer hair.

Which is fine. He can do whatever he wants with his hair.

And so can I. It’s only hair. It’ll grow back.

And then I can cut it all of again or let it continue to grow depending on how I feel.

Posted in Hairstyles, Random

The extremes of my hair…

When I started this blog almost 3 years ago I had extremely long hair. And at the time I had no plans of ever cutting it short ever again.

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But then I started to feel like my hair was getting too long and that it was just too much work to maintain it. So in March of 2014 I did cut it.

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In fact, I had my husband cut off about 15 inches of my hair. And for a while I was happy with it. It was quicker and easier to care for, and it didn’t get in the way as much. But it was still long, and eventually I got tired of the maintenance it required as well. So I had my husband cut my hair again this past April.

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And then I cut it again this past July. And dyed it a dark purple.

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At this point one of my friends told me that she thought I looked better with long hair and pointed out that if I went much shorter my husband and I would have the same hairstyle. I laughed at this and told her that I have gone about as short as my husband cuts his before.

And then I cut it again just a couple of days ago.

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It is now only a 1/2 inch long. Which is still longer than the 1/8 inch that my husband cuts his to, but pretty damn close to the two of us having the same hairstyle. I’m not quite sure what point my friend was trying to get across with her comment, but I don’t think that I’m going to confuse anyone with my “boys” haircut.

I know that when I allow my hair to grow out that it’s gorgeous and thick. I know that a lot of people would love to have hair like mine when it’s long. And I know that I probably look better with longer hair.

BUT, I also know just how exhausting and time-consuming it can be to care for my hair when it’s long. I was frustrated with the amount of maintenance that it required when it was only an inch long. So that’s why I cut it as short as it is. Because this hairstyle is NO maintenance. Which is exactly what I was looking for.

I’m giving myself a break from bad hair days for a while.

I’m giving myself the gift of the time that I would have had to spend on maintaining my hair, every day, if I had kept it long or had even just kept it an inch long.

Also, it’s only hair. It’ll grow back.

Posted in Blogging, Cat Mom, Food, Random

My many header images…

I currently have my blog set up to randomize all of my header images, and since I have a lot of different header images I thought I’d go ahead and share them all here. The only photo out of all of these that I did not take myself is the picture of the frog using a leaf as an umbrella. That one I found somewhere on the internet a while ago.

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