Posted in Blogging, Cat Mom, Random, Writing Challenges

Happy Tribus! All about the 3 you love…

Happy Tribus day everyone!

Whaaat Minion

Tribus day is brand new holiday, just created a few days ago by Rara and Eli Pacheco. It’s a day to celebrate three things you love. If you’re still confused, check out this post for more information.

So my three things for this very first Tribus day are:

Cats

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Coffee

I can't stop drinking the coffee

And all of the friends that I have gained through blogging.

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If you would like to participate, just write a post of your 3 loves, link it to Rara’s post explaining Tribus Day (Here) and tag it #HappyTribus.

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Posted in Blogging, Family, Marriage, Relationships

No longer anonymous…

When I started this blog a few years ago I didn’t start out as anonymous. I let people on Facebook know that I had a blog and had my posts automatically shared on Facebook when I posted them. But, to my knowledge, not many people I actually knew were reading my blog and I wanted to start writing about things that were going to be easier to write about if no one knew who I was, so I decided to unlink my blog from Facebook. I went completely anonymous. No photos of myself, no names, only vague references to where I lived.

And then as I made friends via my blog I slowly started to give out bits and pieces of information about who I was and where I lived. I let people know that I lived in Northern Utah, in the Salt Lake Valley. That before that I lived in a little town on the Connecticut shoreline where I grew up. I slowly started to post pictures of myself, first without showing my face and then no longer hiding my face. I even changed my user pic to an actual picture of me.

The one thing that I have not done is let people know my real name. But as I have made friends on here and have started to connect with them via my personal Facebook page I have realized that eventually some of my other friends and family are going to figure out that I have a blog. And while that used to worry me because I fear judgement from them for the opinions and life choices that I discuss on this blog, I find that I no longer care as much if they might disapprove. I will be 33 years old on the very last day of November. I have been married to my husband, Curtis, (also known as unremarkable man) for 13 years and living on the other side of the country from most of my friends and family for over 11 years. In other words, I’m grown ass woman, and while I will always appreciate input and support from my friends and family, their opinion on how I choose to live my life doesn’t really matter.

Don't be afraid to rock the boat

I don’t need anyone’s approval or permission to live my truth. And if anyone decides to voice their displeasure with my life choices, just know that one of my life choices is that I don’t need to have negativity in my life. You are allowed to have your opinions, but there is no reason why I need to hear about those opinions unless I have specifically asked for them.

WhatYouThinkOfYourself

My life choices are not up for debate.

I have recently come back to blogging after taking a break from it for almost a year. I spruced up my blog layout. And I have decided that I’m tired of hiding. This is my space to write about what I want, and if people don’t like it, they don’t have to read it.

My name is Charlene Perry.

Posted in Blogging, Random, Writing Challenges

Prompt: What reminds you of who you truly are…

I haven’t done any writing prompts in a long time but I was reading Rara’s blog a little while ago and came across this post and was inspired to go ahead and write a list of my own.

The prompt was: What Reminds You of Who You Truly Are? 

And this is my list:

1.Cats

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2.The colors purple, blue and green

3.Dragonflies

Explore Dragonfly

4.Butterflies

Cherish Dream

5.Elephants

Candles and Elephant Sepia

6.Frogs

Metal Frogs Cropped

7.Colored pencils

8.Markers

Markers

9.Fairies

Fairies

10.Painted nails

11.Purple hair

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12.Hoodies

13.Movies and TV shows based on Comic Books

14.Music

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15.Rain

16.Thunderstorms

17.This Blog

18.Other People’s Blogs

19.Road Trips

20.Books

EmotionalBookTrauma

21.Cupcake artwork

Cupcakes

22.Solar powered dancing flowers

23.Coffee

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24.Big mugs

Giant Hershey's Mug and Bear

25.The changing seasons, but especially Autumn

26. Colorful rocks

27. The afghan that took me several years to crochet

My Afghan

28. Cobalt blue glass

Cobalt Blue Glass Squares and Circles

29. Magnets

Magnetic Poo

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Blogging, Mental Health, Relationships

Oh… Hey, would you look at that, I’ve still got a blog…

It’s been quite a while since I last posted anything in this blog. I wasn’t sure if I would ever come back to it and I may never have come back at all if it weren’t for the fact that I made friends through this site that I have had contact with via other forms of social media during my absence.

I’m not sure exactly what caused me to walk away from my blog in the first place. But the longer I was away, the harder it seemed to come back.

And then recently I started reading Rara’s blog posts on both her sites about coming back to blogging after being imprisoned for 438 days. After all she suffered, and all she lost, she is finding her way back.

So, if she can do it, so can I.

I had just barely started to actively follow Rara when she was no longer able to continue blogging for a while, but her’s was one of the blogs that I went and binge read back through the archives. I was anxiously awaiting the day that my friends on social media announced that she was free again at last. And it hit me like a ton of bricks when I instead read the words that her husband had died while she was still in prison. So much unfairness that it just can’t be comprehended.

But she’s back to blogging, and I want to try to come back too.

But if I am going to come back, there will have to be a few ground rules. I realize that the most popular and searched posts on my blog are the ones about me cutting off ties with my sister. They were the most commented on by people who were going through similar situations themselves before I closed comments. I do not regret writing those posts, and I hope that people will take comfort that there are others’ who are going through things like what they are going through, but I can not give people advice on how to handle their situations anymore. I am not qualified to give advice and constantly talking about my sister, or randomly being reminded of her via people bringing up those posts and asking for my advice is not healthy for me at this time. So, unless I bring it up myself, those posts are off limits for discussion. I am trying to move on with my life, and I can’t do that while looking backward.

Another ground rule, be patient with me and please don’t be upset if I am not able to keep up with your blogs. There’s a lot going on in my life that has me feeling very overwhelmed, and I just can’t add staying completely up to date with all the blogs I follow to that list.

And related to that last one, please don’t be offended if I take a long time to respond to/approve any comments you may make, or if I never respond at all. I’m sometimes very bad about social interaction.

Posted in Blogging, Cat Mom, Photo Challenges

Cee’s Odd Ball Photo Challenge: Week 7…

I took a little break from blogging the last couple of weeks after I spiked a fever and was forced to admit that I was in fact sick and not just suffering from allergies. Then my husband had some time off from work and my cat had a vet appointment that resulted in him having all of his remaining teeth pulled. So I now have a toothless cat. (He has a condition called Stomatitis that caused his immune system to attack his teeth.)

I have 3 weeks worth of questions to catch up on for the Share Your World challenge, but I don’t feel like tackling that right now. So instead I’m going to share some photos for Cee’s Odd Ball Photo Challenge. These are some closeups I took of a wind chime we have hanging in our bedroom.

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